My daughter plays AAU. This past weekend she was having an amazing tournament until her team ran into the “Hot” team of our area. Videos below were early in the game and just basically took her out mentally and she was in quite a bit of pain. She played through it, but not getting any calls and how this team plays all in your face is mentally defeating which is the point I get it.
Neither of these Videos were called for anything. Am I crazy to think they should have been? Refs wonder why some parents get so upset. I was pretty angry watching my daughter be roughed up in a 10U basketball game, the refs response was why don’t I sit down, shut up, and just watch the game.
As a parent I’m getting sick of the younger age groups who rely on overly aggressive plays, lazy refs, and hold backs for wins so they look good. How is this playing basketball the right way? The stuff won’t fly in high-school and college.
by Enough_River_2831
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I’m just looking to see if because I am a parent, I’m being overly critical, and it’s not insane no calls. Sometimes, aau refs make me feel crazy.
Is your daughter #4? Because she dives for the ball in the first video head first. Sorry not getting that call even if she was hit in the face. She honestly looks like the agressesor who just happened to get hit when she dove on the ground. Which is normal and shouldn’t be called when two players are equally going for the ball. And the second one, I guess could have been called but the contact looked kinda marginal. The fact your daughter reacts so hard to both is a bit of a red flag. Refs pick up on if a player is overly dramatic. Lastly, it’s hard to ref youth basketball and it’s more difficult the younger the players are because their skill level is lower and coaches teach their players to be overly aggressive. The reffing isn’t going to be perfect but you are being overly dramatic if you think the refs are going to cause kids to get hurt. Not telling you how to parent but based on those videos, your daughter needs to control her emotions and be a little tougher. There is physical contact in basketball, play tennis if you don’t want to be touched.
I also have coached youth/HS for 10 years and keep this in mind, the parents with more athletic experience (and usually more athletic kids) seem to argue and complain to refs/coaches less than those who didn’t play sports as much and don’t understand as well. Saw the trend over and over again. Something to keep in mind.